The Gadgetified Society

Posted on May 10, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

My mom got her new Tab! For a moment I thought we have our freedom more now since she is glued to her new gadget, we would be left alone to do what we want with our gadgets. The only time my mom came looking for us was when she needed some help with her new gadget and all four of us were in one corner of the house doing our own stuffs in our own world with our our gadgets!

I have been greatly frustrated with the advancement in technology at times. This is because I feel there is less human connection with the presence of it. I used to look forward to coming home so much to have some time together with family where we could sit in a circle on a bed and talk all day long but ever since the day we all got our own gadgets, things change. We may sit next to each other, being physically present with my loved ones, but in reality each one of us would be browsing something or getting connected with someone from the virtual world. At times, I feel its better to just call and talk to them or just ‘see’ them through Skype. Imagine when you need to see each other and speak out something when your family or friends seems busy in their own world! Isn’t that freaking frustrating?

So my mom was getting used to her tablet, and I purposely sent her the picture you see above, to her mail box and she was already reading it even before I walked from my room to the hall! And we had a good laugh together! While the internet and gadgets are good source of communication and it connects you with your loved ones when they are far away from you, you should never take them for granted when they are around. Keep your stuffs away and speak to them more, they matter the most!

Crying – The Attribute of The Weak or The Strong?

Posted on April 30, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

Have you ever felt,
Like tonnes of negative vibes,

Lingering on your mind,
Pulling yourself back heavily,
The moment you felt like breaking down,
But tears are just not in favour of it,
Have you ever tried holding your tears back,
Try killing the thoughts silently,
But only to find your thoughts are stronger than you,
And finally you resort to writing,
Pinning all the pains down on print,
Letting the crystal clear beads,
Roll down your cheeks,
Washing away all the impurities,
Cleansing your heart and soul,
And telling yourself,
Crying is the attribute of the strong,
Having the ability to exhibit the weakness.

Like seasons, feelings change!

Posted on April 16, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

That sense of excitement,
stealthily catching a glimpse,

On the one you like,
The one that makes your heart skip a beat,
Is now fading away gradually,
Dull and lifeless.
When cupid makes the wrong aim,
Over again,
The euphoria love arouses,
Is never at the same intensity,
Love doesn’t seem enticing,
Dates you remember fades off,
So quickly,
Memories don’t evoke tears in your eyes anymore,
Like seasons, feelings change,
And just like seasons,
It takes the right one,
To make you feel the love,
All over again!

3 Things to Achieve By 30!

Posted on April 11, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

3 Things Before 30

I’ll soon be out of campus and I’m in the midst of looking for a job already. I have hundreds of things on my mind and I feel there is an urge to make up my mind on what I want to see myself as by the time I touch 30! I’m 9 months away to celebrate silver jubilee. Right now, I’m already feeling bad wasting of my time not having thought about this earlier.

So, as I age I feel the necessity to have a long time aim for my life:

Complete Further Education

I have swayed from wanting to enrol in one field of studies to another in a great extent. From medicine to engineering, something I have never considered doing, not even in my wildest dream! Engineering was a big NO for me. But as I stood at the verge of deciding what to do next, having failed in securing a scholarship for medicine (for some very irritable reason), I wanted take up the challenge of doing what I thought I could never like doing. I have always liked learning new stuff so I don’t see a reason why I couldn’t do engineering. I took up Chemical Engineering and I’m absolutely loving the twist I made in life. Now, as I’m 2 months away from completing my Bachelor’s Degree, I face another crossroad of life. What to do next?

Some may choose to further their studies right away, but I want to get into the real world, the working life and see what suits me the most. I would want to have a clear picture of my career. After which I might want to decide which field of studies to choose to further my studies. I have a strong will to venture into Management Studies, again something that differs from what I’m doing. And I want this to be done by the age of 30.

2. Have Good Source of Incomes

I regret not thinking about freelancing earlier but I guess it’s never late to start on it! I have always questioned myself what if I work for someone and lose the job, what do I do to support myself and my family, and how to cope with the cost of living. The second thing I want to ensure for the future is to have a second option of source of income in addition to the primary job! I would want to venture into freelancing and generate some income so that I always have an option that would support me if I were to fall from my career ladder!

When I think of having a career, I’m also considering the fact that I may have to alter my job according to the needs of the family I would make in future. Parents are expected to spend time with their children to ensure they mould their offsprings into people with values ingrained in their soul and mind. To make these a reality, men and women should tailor their working hours according to the need to spend time with family. On the other hand, women need to have a decent amount of income to be able to manage the high living expenses. I have got a lot of thinking to do now 🙂

3. Settling Down

Settling down in three sense:
– By the time I’m 30, I would want to make up my mind on which part on earth (or at least country) to settle down. I hate highly urbanised areas as they are just another source of additional stress!
– I would also want to ensure that I have settled my study loan by then which I now feel pretty possible. I want to be debt free so that I could think of affording a car at least by then.
– A house is a great investment and regardless of whether I need a house to stay or not (women have husband’s house to stay as another option), I feel having a house is a long time benefit!

Don’t Steal My Sweetness Away

Posted on April 9, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

Life,
Sometimes stabs you so bad,
Stomps on your heart so hard,

And expects you to pretend,
Like it has never hurt you.
I am grateful,
For I know my dark past,
Should not take a toll on me,
I know my hardship shouldn’t,
Change me to someone I’m not,
But pain cautions me too much,
It hardens and numbs my soul,
So that life doesn’t hurt me anyway,
I was told that,
I’m sweet and kind and caring,
I make a wish tonight,
So that life doesn’t steal,
My sweetness away.

Marriage: Trading Sex For Money?

Posted on April 7, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

This picture tells you everything!

Look around you and study the factors that drive people to get their partner? Found a similar trend? This is what I’m going to talk about next!

I agree financial status and looks play important roles in determining the choice we make for life partners. But, one can run out of money and beauty fades with time. We all know this fact, but still the majority of young men and women go for looks and money respectively.

To What Extent Are Money and Looks Important?

When women consider someone as life partners, we definitely pay importance to the financial security of a man. Most women say yes to a man who is able to provide food on table and a shelter above head. These are the basic needs in life. Apart from that, money is also needed to run a family, send kids to school and have decent standard of living. It’s hard to live without sufficient money in this world and the least a woman can do to take you as her partner is by considering a man’s will to generate money to improve his living standard. I have had a man who isn’t moving his ass to provide basic amenities so I know the pain of having an unsecured future in mind.

When men consider someone as life partners, they go for looks. I don’t know about you reading this but I have seen so many of them putting looks on the top priority when it comes to choosing someone as their wife. Looks are important undeniably to be pleasant enough to the man’s eyes and presentable to people addressing the woman as someone’s wife. After all, men need some hot-looking girls to be introduced as their wife. This is how men and women basically think.

What Happens When Looks and Money Overrule Love and Attitude?

So we know money and looks don’t last. Attitude matters. The love for one’s looks and money can die when the man runs out of money and the lady grows old which eventually fades her beauty. It looks pretty fake when someone falls in love for the money and looks. It’s like cheating themselves. Marriage becomes like an union trading sex for wealth. As couples can’t tolerate each others’ attitude, they tend to live for the sake of marriage or kids or worse separate and find their own way.

Good-looking women are hard to please with as they need to be showered with gifts and treats all the time. They just don’t seem to take part in their men’s difficulties. Some men even degrade women and label them as someone who comes after money. So ladies, money buys you and your looks? You sell your looks for money? Isn’t turning out to be gross. It’s no different than people selling sex for money! That makes us feel so cheap isn’t?

Attitude Matters The Most

I feel it’s essential to take time to get to know each other well and get to know their attitudes, their wants in life and their compatibility with our character. There should always be a way to glue your relationship up when it feels shattering any time soon. Good look and money aren’t going to bring you anywhere. The will to look for money and make yourself presentable and beautiful is the key to any successful relationship. Screw that money and looks aside. Appreciate your partners for who they are!

Dream Father For My Children

Posted on April 2, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

Everyone has dreams of their big day with their Mr.Right and dream girl. The other half we have been in search for and the one who fits into our lives just like the missing jigsaw piece. I think I’d like to write my mind on what kind of father I want for my children.

I want a man who is a feminist,

Yes, you got that right and I mean it,

I need a man who respects women, acknowledges their ability and pays heed to the voice of women,

I need a man who could support what I do for living and be an encouragement,

not someone who shuns me away from being a working woman.

I need a man of value,

I need someone who stands for his values and principles,

Someone who isn’t easily influenced,

Someone who doesn’t forgo his values for globalisation,

I need a man who could pass on these values to the children.

I need a man who is passionate,

A man who is into the things he is good at,

A human-activist,

A man who cares for the well-being of the nature,

Someone whose passion is contagious and inspiring.

I need a man who is responsible for his life,

A man whose life is in order,

Whom I believe,

Only then can he make a good life for the family.

I need a man who can teach my children to be independent,

A man who can teach them to live without money,

Someone who could support their passion,

and acknowledges their ambition,

I need a man who doesn’t make my children a spoil-brat.

I need a man of my dream and I’m not compromising on that or settling for someone I less deserve.

Pain Is All We Need

Posted on April 2, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

You and I,
We are all walking different paths of life,
Behind that smile of every strangers,
Lies an untold story,
Coloured with joy and tanned by sorrows.

Sometimes, pain is the bitter pill,
That we all need,
Never refuse to experience pain,
It’s like an antidote,
Pain protects you, strengthens you,
and builds you to become who you are,
Pain leads you to your destiny.

If you are afraid of pain,
You will never learn,
If you are walking life without pain,
You are never strong,
Rise up from your pain,
Shine bright like the sun,
Stronger than ever!

That F,B and S Words In Between Sentences: It’s Your Mantra?

Posted on March 22, 2013 by Jasveena R Prabhagaran

So you think you are fucking cool to use the “fuck” word in between all fucking sentences and you think you can fucking scare the shit out of everyone? You think that fucking word is so fucking fantabulous and it adds force into your fucking emotions and expression? You think only you can fucking use it and it shows how fucking open-minded you are????

I’ll show you why it’s doesn’t make you any fucking cool and fantastic!!

Abusing someone doesn’t mean you need to hurt then physically. Abusing someone is not just about raping or verbally ill-treating them with words like hardcore nut or pig-headed fool. Abusing includes the word “fuck”, “slut” and “bitch”. None of these words I can find through my phone dictionary while typing and I’ve got to type word by word. So, even software knows it’s derogatory, what makes you think you are the highest form of life if you are one of them using it?

Three reasons why all forms of abusive natures should come to an end to kill discrimination and violence!

1. Mind Your Words, It Reflects Who You Are

What you say is what personifies yourself. We are so concern about cultivating good attitude that would lift up our children’s personality. Just like how you should watch your attitude, you should also watch what you say. Not only bad attitudes could stinks, but also the foul words you use towards others. When you project positive attitudes, you get back the positive vibes from nature. So mind you language, make a difference in what and how you speak so others would respect you.

2. You Are Degrading Your Own Kind

Women, you got watch this out. Calling other women slut and bitch doesn’t make you any greater than them. What makes you think that men should respect women when you yourself degrade other women? I have been reading some ungodly incidents on how cruel men can be towards women. While we are so furious blaming men for that incidents (you all know what incidents that have been shaking the world over and over again), why not make a change in the way we treat people and our own womenfolk!!

3. It Adds Oil To Abusive Nature

Abusive nature of humankind doesn’t emerge all of a sudden. The way a person who truly respects someone else as a person will watch what they say and how they behave. Even at worst scenarios, their reflection of anger would be of low abusive nature. If one could be abusive verbally, then it doesn’t take a long time for him/her to be physically abusive. Stop portraying a negative image of yourself, only then can you spread kindness and humanity.

I believe you will be humane enough to treat another mankind the way you would want to be treated!! Stop the use of foul language. It really isn’t cool!!