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|The victims of Montreal Massacre 1989|
|Acid Attack Fighter Laxmi|
This is Laxmi, the Acid Attack Fighter, and this is her story. (quoted from her Facebook page)
My name is Laxmi. Read my story. I\’m one of you. In fact, I am like you. I was young and beautiful and I had a dream. Even when I was studying in a Delhi school in Class VII, I would spend hours singing. I\’d recorded my songs and sent them to talent hunt competitions. I was waiting for a call from \’Indian Idol\’.
I\’m from a poor family. My father worked as a chef in a South Delhi home. I became friends with another girl in the neighbourhood and her brother soon started proposing to me. I was only 15 and he, 32 years old. On April 18, he messaged me: \”I love you.\’\’ I ignored it, but the next day he messaged again: \”I want an instant reply.\’\’ Again I didn\’t respond.
I kept screaming for help but no one stepped forth. Everyone ran in the opposite direction. I could feel my flesh burning and I covered my eyes with my arms. That reflex action saved me from losing my vision.
Acid corrodes quickly. Within a few seconds, I had lost my face, my ear had melted and both my arms were charred black. A politician\’s driver took me to a hospital, where I was to stay for the next 10 weeks.
I saw myself in the mirror at the end of 10 weeks and couldn\’t believe what the acid had done to me. The doctors had to remove the entire skin from my face and keep it bandaged. I\’ve already had seven surgeries and need at least four more before I can go in for plastic surgery, provided I can afford it.
I learnt to live with the physical pain but what hurt more was the way the society reacted. My own relatives stopped seeing me, as did my friends. I stayed indoors for eight years and ventured out only in a ghungat.
My main attacker was out on bail within a month and he soon got married. He returned to a normal life within a month, but what about me? Nobody even wants to be my friend; how can I even hope that I\’ll have a lover or a husband?
I tried to pick up a job but nobody was willing to hire me. Some said: \”People will get scared if they see you.\” Others said they will call back but, of course, the phone never rang. I tried BPOs, banks and beauty parlours but all I got was rejection. Nobody wants to hire acid victims because of the way they look.
But I ask you, is it our fault? Society accepts those born blind or those who are physically challenged. Why are we shunned? If you ask me, we are worse off than rape victims because with our faces burnt, we seem to have lost our identity.
I still sing. I love music. I love partying. I love nail polish. I design and tailor my own clothes. I have desires like you do, but I seem to scare off people.
The only support I got was from my parents, my doctor, my lawyer Aparna Bhatt and from the couple at whose house my father worked. They paid for my surgeries and are still in touch with me.
Even while my parents were coping with the attack, my brother came down with tuberculosis and my father died. I was shattered for the second time.
In the instant that my father died, I had to carry the burden of being the bread earner for the family. My mother has to constantly be by my brother\’s side and feels really upset that she cannot spend time with me.
I gathered myself together and pursued my case in court. My lawyer had filed a petition in the Supreme Court, asking for a ban on the sale of acid.
Slowly, I started getting in touch with other victims, most of who are blinded or have lost their hearing. Each one of us is poor and cannot afford multiple surgeries.
You can\’t bear to look at us but we don\’t have the money to buy ourselves new faces. My friends – yes, I\’ve made new friends and they are all acid victims – are mostly blind.
You stare at us and gather your children in a hurry, hoping they haven\’t got scared just looking at us. Why don\’t you tie a band around your eyes and see how dark it gets.
That\’s how dark our world is.
I hope you never have to inhabit it, but I do hope you understand it. Don\’t give me the strength if you can\’t, but don\’t try and break my confidence. I\’ve just learnt to move on.
I started an online petition and was happy when 27,000 people signed it. I went to the home ministry to submit it to Sushil Kumar Shinde. We waited for three hours but he didn\’t have even five minutes for us. I had to finally ambush his car to hand over the petition.
Nahim Khan, the man who had attacked me with acid, had to go back to jail after the court awarded him a seven-year sentence. He will be free in two years and continue with life. But my scars will remain forever..
My legal fight will continue. The Supreme Court has ordered states to pay Rs. 3 lakh as compensation, but what about our medical costs – some of us need to undergo 30-40 surgeries? What about jobs? How about sensitising the police force and trials in fast-track courts?
Even countries like Bangladesh have implemented stringent laws to deal with acid crimes but India has resisted it for so long. So many could have been saved. I need your help. We need the government to compensate us too. What about so many of us who are still suffering. Should the law not be with retrospective effect?
I have a dream and I want to live it.
Today, Laxmi continues to fight for women\’s rights and campaigns against Acid Attacks in India where the poor regulations of acid sales contribute to rising number of acid attacks. Laxmi was one of the recipients of the International Women of Courage 2014 award.
|Mothers ‘iron’ daughters breasts to delay puberty and prevent rape|
We all know that every society deals with its own issues of discrimination against women. We have societies dealing with rape in night clubs, child bride issues, the \’dowry\’ or \’wedding gift\’ custom, birth control and abortions. But in Cameroon, little girls go through hell in the name \’protection\’ by their very own mothers.
Rape and child pregnancies are very common in Cameroon and mothers over there decide to iron their girls\’ breasts to delay puberty and prevent rape. So, flat breast don\’t attract men! Meh! It is a new tradition due to sexual violence in Cameroon where girls will be forced to get their breasts ironed as early as 11. They would simply grab any objects, heat them up and press it on the girls\’ breasts. These girls cry so hard but all their mothers say is that it is for their \’own good\’. Good? So, has the rape cases drop over the years?
What happens to these girls as they grow up is horrifying as they develop diseases due to this practice. Some have cysts, some have infections and some have their breast looking extremely bad and non-symmetrical. The psychological disorder these girls develop is even worse. They grow up to feel bad about their appearance and the trauma remains in their heart, forever!
There a now a group of women activist with more than 10,000 members are now fighting for the younger generation and the campaign is showing positive results as the percentage of women affected by this practice has dropped to 12 from 25% in 2006.
|The Rise of Plus Size Models Is A Good Sign For Women|
Over the time, the confidence level and how good a person is will be the new yardstick to measure the real beauty! We are progressively redefining beauty and we can be certain of that !
I received an e-mail a few days ago notifying me that I\’ve received a comment for my Goodreads book review. I clicked on the link to see who has responded to my review for \”Heroin of the Desert\” by Donya Al-Nahi.
This was an old book I bought nearly 5 years ago. I gave this book a 4 star. It\’s about a woman who help saves kids and reunite them with their mothers. Donya helps non-Arabic mothers who are separated from their husbands after divorce in getting back their kids.
It is a common scenario in the Middle East where the children are being separated from their mothers (especially from Western ladies who got married to Middle Eastern men). I have read a similar story from Carmen Bin Laden who was married to one of the men from Bin Laden\’s family and struggled very hard to get her two daughters back.
Getting back to the comment I received, I saw someone leaving negative review about the book and urging everyone single person who reviewed the book to read the news that appeared in this link. I tried to check the person\’s profile page and it appeared to be that he or she has never reviewed any other books before this.
When someone questioned the credibility of the news, this person started arguing. I noticed that this profile doesn\’t exist on Goodreads today too.
Being an avid Middle East story fan, I could relate to this kind of attack on books where the author reveals stories about people being mistreated. My favourite writer in this genre is Jean Sasson and you can read about how her books are being greatly boycotted by anonymous people all over the world.
A quote from Jean Sasson from her website.
For anyone who is considering writing a book, you might want to read my personal account of what it is like to be stalked, and, for that stalker to find attorneys willing to file a frivolous lawsuit. — Jean
|My New Pink Button|
Gaining happiness with products that satisfies us is a good thing but it shouldn\’t be done by faking our body and perception. After all, if you truly think your partner loves your heart more than the way you look, the colour of your labia shouldn\’t be an issue here.
|And Save Your Common Sense Along!|
I bet you noticed the \’\’typo\’\’ on my title. But you are wrong unfortunately! Read on!
This got to be the most awful method of fundraising I have ever seen or heard off in my life! What is the whole fuss about, if you ask, this \’\’funraising\’\’ campaign was started by a YouTube channel, Simple Pickup. They think they should incorporate some \’\’fun\’\’ while fundraising because apparently \’\’we all love boobs\’\’. What they do is to go to some random women ask if they could \’\’motorboat\’\’ them (which is to stick their faces in a pair of boobs and then simulate a seizure) and promised to donate $20 for every pair of boobs they got up on.
They managed to get about $2080 and they planned to donate $100 for every hundred thousand views they get on the video.
Okay so you may say that this is just the fun way of doing things and the women gave their consent to motorboat them so what\’s the fuss now right? Wrong!! I do have a problem with this.
If people can do anything they want in the name of fundraising(or funraising), will the allow funraisers to dare people go naked on the street and taaa.. daaaa.. you get $100? After all, it is teh fun way of doing things. So can we expect this in the future?
If people can do anything as long as they give absolute consent for what is being asked for in a campaign, then they should have the rights to do what they feel like doing in the public too. Why must we show so much objection towards the Femen movement? They walk or march naked on streets for a good cause too, which is to fight for equality and feminism. They have their own reasons too and nobody is forcing anyone to go nude.
If people\’s voice and consent matter as a whole in a group of fundraisers or campaigners, then their personal voice should matter too. After, we are living in a world where every country is trying to become the champion of human rights, right? So, if I feel like having a nude walk today out there in the street, that will be and should be completely acceptable!!
If you say, \’\’hey, at least they get some money and raised the level of awareness\’\’, wait a minute!!
Money? Okay, so coming back to the post that Joker has shared on his blog, Susan G. Komen foundation is supposed to be helping the pink ribbon month and raising donation for breast cancer! But guess what we found? Not every campaign has 100% transparency! Nancy Brinker is letting the foundation suffer economically while she making about a million dollars every year. The foundation has failed to continue a few campaigns initially planned for the year 2014 too.
So, the real question is, where is the money going?
And raising the level of awareness? How on earth do you think this video above is going to be educational is any way, for women or the public to get their check up for breast cancer done?I just feel that this \’\’campaign\’\’ is just another marketing method to promote whatever hell they are running on the internet. Well, if the YouTube video gets more views, then they will eventually get more money via AdSense too! Of course, they can\’t say, \’\’hey,can I motorboat you and I will \’donate\’ $100 for Simple Pickup?\’\’ or simply \’\’hey, can you donate some money for our site?\”. These marketing method have been failing over the years.
Now, the real question is, how can they ever sexualise breast cancer? Is it something they can play around with? Or take advantage of? If fun is the main underlying reason why this campaign is even taking place, then women love your balls too guys!! I would love to see if they are ever going to come up with similar campaign where women get to fiddle around with their balls too at public! After all, it is for a noble cause! I have also read about arguments on this issue where some say they should have been doing this too men as even men get breast cancer. And how come we don\’t see old grandmothers here?
If breast cancer awareness is really important to them, people would just donate whatever amount they could if they approach them genuinely! If you think you should donate, you will somehow donate without any \’\’perks\’\’.
While looking up for information about this, I found that it is just not me, but there is another website ranting on the same video. Here is the link.
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