Why He’s Not Ready For A Relationship But Wants To Be Friends?

Is not ready for a relationship but wants to be friends? Are you frustrated because you keep being friend-zoned when you are looking for a relationship? You like him but you’re wondering why he actually wants to be friends with you even if he’s not ready for a relationship. 

I know that you are here to find out if he’s going to change his mind one day and then be ready for a relationship and propose to you.

Maybe he needs more time. Maybe it’s just not the right time yet. Maybe he wants to get in all without the pressure of getting into a relationship faster.

I know that you are justifying a thousand reasons for his behavior and also still trying to see if it is possible to be optimistic about this but let’s just see what the reality is when someone says that he’s not ready for a relationship but wants to be friends with you.

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My Experience

Nothing good has ever transpired from one who actually is not ready for a relationship but he just wants to be friends with you.

I actually have been friends with people who wanted to date me and we immediately knew that we were not compatible but they were really nice people. So, I get to be able to text occasionally.

However, when you are getting to know each other to see if the both of you can develop a romantic relationship, it is actually hard to be friends with people. Especially for people who have liked you first but if you are not able to reciprocate the liking towards the comma it would be hard for them to accept you as their friend because they would not be able to digest the fact that you are seeing someone else.

So, if the connection is not fully platonic it is hard to maintain a level of friendship in order to still be in touch with them.

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Why He’s Not Ready For A Relationship But Wants To Be Friends?

It does not matter if you have been friends with him for some time or you have known him through a dating app, that could be a few reasons why he says he’s not ready for a relationship but wants to be friends.

  1. He Doesn’t Like You

This could actually mean that he is not really keen on forming a relationship with you. He does not like you and this is a form of soft rejection because he does not want to hurt your feelings and therefore he is saying that you can still be friends with him.

More often than not, when people are being told that they are not what someone is looking for, it could be very hard to accept. Rejection is a bitter pill.

  1. He Likes You But Has Past Traumas 

Another reason why when a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship but wants to be friends is not exactly because he doesn’t like you but because he thinks that he is not fully healed from his past trauma once in order to have a relationship with not just you but anyone else. 

He thinks that you are adorable that you are awesome and you deserve someone better and that he simply does not want to Ghost you and discard you just because he’s not ready for a relationship at this point in time.

A lot of people who are not ready for a relationship but still out there dating and putting themselves out on dating apps are actually not quite sure what they want yet but they know deep inside that they have not healed from past traumas and have avoidant attachment dating style in a relationship.

So when they think that they are ready for a relationship, they initially come out when they are talking to you and you’ve been portraying a serious intention in getting to know him, he suddenly gets cold feet and wants to reevaluate his love intention.

  1. He Doesn’t Want To Lose Your Attention To Come Back Around

This is probably one of the wicked reasons why someone says that he’s not ready for a relationship but wants to be friends. It is because he is dating other people at the same time and he is just keeping you as an option to circle back if the other options do not work.

So, how do you identify this? Suppose he is interested in you and is still flirtatious with you even after saying that he is not ready for a relationship. In that case, it goes to show that he just wants to string you along and he just wants to have the benefits of flirting with other people while not exclusively dating any of them.

It goes to show that he likes you but he just wants to find the best option that he could ever find at this point in time. This person is extremely selfish and they do not have any positive intention to respect other people’s feelings.

The Only Thing You Should Do

  • Walk Away and Go No Contact

It does not matter if he’s working on himself, he has passed dramas, or he is simply not ready but he likes you. I actually just do not care about his state of mind and what he thinks about you. 

All I know is that you cannot be friends with someone that you’ve had a romantic interest in, and do not cheat yourself by saying that you can stay friends with them because ultimately this is not gonna bode well with the two of you.

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FAQs

Can a guy like you but not be ready for a relationship?

It is quite possible for a guy to like a person but not be ready for a relationship because liking does not mean that they are ready for a relationship or they want to have a relationship with you. It only means that they want to have a relationship with you if they explicitly say that to you. Understand that if someone is not ready for a relationship, it does not indicate that you are unworthy of love.

How to deal with a man who is not ready for a relationship?

  • Do not harbor anger or resentment towards them.
  • Try to have compassion with them.
  • Understand the reasons why they are not ready for a relationship.
  • Ask yourself what you want from this guy. Do you want to really be friends with him?
  • Goat no contact with this person if you know that this is messing with your mental health
  • Do not turn this into a situationship by waiting around.
  • Be open to dating others and do not narrow down your options just because he’s not ready for a relationship.

Should I wait for him if he’s not ready?

Waiting is taxing emotionally and what’s worse is that you actually do not know how long you’re supposed to wait for someone who is not ready for a relationship. Until and unless they’ve given you a deadline to expect an answer from them, it is not worth to be waiting for someone and also to be handling the emotional roller coaster ride that comes with it. You should continue dating others and keep your expectations low with this person because you have already know that he is not ready for a relationship now.

Should you stay friends with someone who doesn t want a relationship?

It only makes sense to be friends with someone who doesn’t want a relationship if you actually feel that he’s genuinely a good friend and that you can be a good friend for him as well, and you wouldn’t get jealous if he is dating someone else and is getting married to someone else.

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